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Relationships are central to our lives, so when they are under stress or breaking down, we often feel confused, sad and alone. 

Perhaps your relationship is getting you down and you don’t know how to make it better.  Or maybe you want to separate but are finding it too difficult or painful.

when we find ourselves stuck, talking can help us move on

Our practitioners have additional specialist training in Relationship Counselling.  They have worked with hundreds of individuals and couples to resolve issues including …

  • affairs
  • commitment
  • communication
  • depression
  • family
  • illness
  • infertility
  • jealousy
  • loss
  • mental health
  • stress
  • trauma

If you’re trying to save your relationship or move on, we can help you to explore your feelings, express your concerns and find the best way forward.

 

To find out more about Relationship Counselling

email or call Aberdeen Peterhead Elgin

Paul's Story

When I confronted my wife about having an affair, I was praying she would deny it, that it wasn’t true and I’d got it all wrong.  That moment, waiting for her to respond, felt like an eternity.  She started to cry and, to be honest, it’s a bit of a haze but I remember I hit the roof.  I don’t think I’d ever felt such rage and I really wanted to hurt them both.

My initial reaction was to throw her out and she did go and stay with her Mum for a couple of weeks.  Even though I was angry and miserable, I was confused because I didn’t really want to leave her.  We’d been together for 16 years, it was a lot to give up but I was all over the place and couldn’t control my feelings.  I thought I still loved her but I hated her at the same time.  We tried to work it out but I punished her at every opportunity and became obsessed by her every move.  I was wearing both of us down and I couldn’t stop myself.

After about 4 months, we decided to try counselling, it really was our last hope.  I didn’t think it would work, but the counsellor explained that, if we decided to separate, she could support us through that.  She said that leaving the relationship amicably would help us both move on and start over.

There were lots of times when we both wanted to call it a day, but we stuck it out and stayed together.  Counselling really made us look at ourselves, not just our marriage and I wasn’t expecting that.  I learned that we hadn’t really communicated for years and we were both responsible for the success of the relationship.  We argue now but that’s progress, as before we brushed everything under the rug and pretended we were happy.  I still think about the affair sometimes and it does hurt, but not like it did.  I guess some things are worth fighting for even when you think you’ll never get over it.