My partner and I both have children from our previous marriages. He wants us all to go on a family holiday but we haven’t been together for very long and our children are all different ages from 4 to 14. I can’t help thinking it will end in tears but he is so enthusiastic about the idea. What should I do?
I agree that family holidays can be problematic at the best of times but, when a family is fairly new to each other, it can be even more challenging. Blended families bring complications and it’s important to consider the views of your children’s other parents who might have some input. They may be very enthusiastic about the idea or could there be some jealousy about your new relationship? It’s important to have these discussions as early as possible.
No enterprise with four children of differing ages will be easy, but the reality might be wonderful and a great way for the new family to connect. Make sure you are honest about your concerns with your new partner. What about asking the children for ideas about where they’d like to go and what they’d like to do? Don’t forget to consider the adult needs as well. Is he a rough camping type of guy and your idea of a holiday is a spa or a beach? We have such big expectations about holidays, it would be smart to look at what is really feasible and affordable. You may want to consider a trial run with fewer children or a long weekend with all of you together. There are no guarantees it will work well or be a complete success but, sometimes we just have to be brave and take a chance on the people we care about.